I’m going to tell you a secret. It’s not my favorite, but it is necessary, my nearly foolproof recipe for making fast friends with girls:
- Introduce yourself by name and ask theirs and remember it
- Pay them a genuine, but surface-y compliment that you actually mean and look in their eyes so they know you mean it because people can tell when you don’t mean compliments
- Somehow segue the convo into boys/relationships, finding a connection point on either a recent rejection or a recent connection (Just be like, “So. Tell me about the last interaction you had with another human.”)
- Invite them to eat some fresh-baked pastries with you (to commiserate or celebrate)
You should have enough to go on by that point that the conversation can flow naturally onto other, more meaningful things because let’s be real: Girls + boys + food + fashion? The essential building blocks of girl small talk. I say “nearly foolproof” because I have, on occasion, run into a few girls who are under age two, and their articulation is poor, so the friendship-making skills are more of a mystery to me.
For the pastries part, nothin’ like a muffin to welcome new house-dwellers. Previous new roommate muffin time here. My two new roommates will walk into the kitchen and say things like, “You’re in here…again?” Clueless lol. But in a nice way.
These reminded me of the way England does fairy cakes. Just a thick glaze, no buttercream swirls necessary. I baked these on the first Saturday morning that all the fairies were together in the house, soaking in the morning sunshine and trading boy stories.
Trying to get after these babies again, I included juice and chia seeds. They weren’t quite as moist as last time, no idea why, but the glaze was jamming. And these are muffins, so breakfast.
Glazed Chia Grapefruit Ginger Muffins
Adapted from this recipe